Should I date again after a breakup?
April 29, 2009 by Get Ex Back
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Top questions to ask before dating again
You did all that you can to bring your ex back but failed. You’ve already spent a fortune on self help guides that didn’t work for you. Or just maybe, you did something wrong or maybe, your ex doesn’t really want you anymore. Whatever the reasons you may now have, while being on the moving on process you will always be asking (and always be told) to go out an have fun.
But does this means that you have to date around? Here are the most important questions to ask yourself first before you date after a breakup:
1. Are you over him? Granted that you are not yet over him and you just want to have fun. Remember, dating around is not sleeping around. It’s healthier to get to know as many new faces as possible, it’s a healthier form of diversion, but please. Control the temptation since complications are just not good at the moment you’re still not over him yet.
2. Will there still be a chance to get my ex back? Well if you still know you have a good chance, why date? You can only date around if it’s totally over, and you know deep down that your ex won’t be happier with you this time around – that it’s high time for you to find your happiness instead.
3. Yes, you’re totally over him and you are ready to give yourself to another person who is worth your undying love and devotion. Remember, you just came from a really painful (or a devastating) breakup. Are you sure you can avoid your past issues this time? Are you sure you can be a better partner from now on?
4. Is he good looking? Does he have a job? Did he finish college? What is his background (social, psychological, economic, financial)? Is he smart? Polite? Gentleman? Do you have the same political and religious views? How about in raising a family? What do you have in common? Is he funny? Or at least, can he meet your horizons? Does he beat up women, children and animals? What ended his previous relationships?
These questions may sound really superficial, but COME ON. In this day and age, movie cliches don’t work in real life and love. The reason why we have a 50%+ divorce rate is because of these issues I mentioned. He doesn’t have to be rich good looking (though that will be preferable) but as long as the good qualities overweigh the not-so-good ones, then go. But bottom line is, you have to know him better this time.
5. But what if the guy turns out to be a total slacker? Will you be willing to forgive yourself for committing to a total loser who just used you and threw you away?
When you have honestly answered these questions, those will now determine if you really are ready to date around. Fine, you’re not yet looking for a husband or a long term relationship this time, but having fun always have to be along the straight lines. Don’t wait for bigger problems and complications to arrive before you appreciate the importance of good clean fun in dating. That’s not only a sign of being more mature and wise, but that’s how you assess your readiness to commit again – and to make love last this time.
