4 Steps to Successfully Get Back your Ex

Right after a breakup, people who had just underwent through a trying and sad event in their lives will surely feel frustrated but the same time desperate especially when you are not ready to let go of your ex that easily.

If you really want to get your ex back, you must be wise. Do not let your emotions dictate your moves. Treat your quest to get your ex back as a military mission where you need to map out a plan which will guide you so that you will be successful in getting back your ex.

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Take one step at a time. First things first. Focus your mind on what you want and you eventually hope to achieve. You have to list down and carefully consider each factor that might affect your chances of getting back together successfully.

Step 1. Identify and understand your reasons why you are willing to go the extra mile to get back your ex. Your reasons must be from the heart. Is it what you really want? Do you still see both yourselves together in the future?

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Step 2. Be willing to change not only for your ex but for yourself. You owe yourself a chance to change for the better. Be willing to change your negative behavior which had contributed to the breakup of your relationship. Endeavor to be a better person and you will surely be more desirable.

Step 3. Keep the communication lines between you and your ex alive. If you are ready to talk with your ex, do so, but be sure to keep your cool and tread slowly. This is still a very much sensitive period. Whatever you do or say may spell the success or demise of your goals.

Step 4. Say what you mean and mean what you say. You should be a man of your word. Second chances are hard to find and you might never have another chance to show your ex that you really love him/her.

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My Fatal Mistakes That Made Him Leave

It was my entire fault why we broke up. And now that he’s enjoying his life without me, while I’m still trying to heal and to move on after the breakup, I had to mull things over. I had to search deep down my shortcomings. It’s not that I’m punishing myself too much. I just figured out that my husband would never leave me – if I didn’t give him reasons to leave. I didn’t mean to be such a b*tch. I just thought that in this case, my position is already elevated from “girlfriend” to “WIFE” – therefore, I should be getting more. It was just a painful realization that all this time, it had been ME, ME and ME first. – and not him, or us.

1.      I should have been more understanding.

Not because I was older, I was 26 and he was 22, but regardless of our age, I was wrong enough to think that my needs were more important than his – and failed to realize that, his needs has to be met, too. Even if those needs are as mundane as going out with his friends (and you staying home), hogging the remote every basketball weekends, or playboy magazines. Even if those needs meant being friends with his exes or making new friends who happen to be ramp models. He has the right to have fun and enjoy the life without me, because I suffocated him the more that I didn’t recognize that need.

2.      I should have trusted him more.

Going out with his friends may mean, he’s just out to enjoy or, he’s out to find another girl. Whatever my suspicions were, I should not have entertained those suspicions until I’ve proven otherwise. If suspected criminals have the right to be considered innocent til proven guilty, so do husbands and boyfriends. Besides, if I didn’t entertain NOR magnify those suspicions, I would have been rational enough to remind myself of the truth – that I and our baby was his universe, and we mean the world to him.

3.      I didn’t allow him to decide.

Probably our different backgrounds had a lot to do with this. I was older, I had a better educational and working background, and my exes gave me the wheel most of the time, and so logically I thought I should be the one leading us forth. Not allowing him to decide on things (be it major or minor) made himself think of his own inferiority, and when a guy thinks that way, that’s DANGER. He will go look for some other girl who can make him feel better about himself by letting him decide. I never realized I was already making him feel he was incapable.

4.      I was too nagging.

Again, a simple issue that could have been resolved. There are times that a guy forgets (or deliberately forgets) to shower, to take out the trash, to clean up the house, but I guess, it’s natural for us women to nag. Even if we shut up, we’ll still bring that up later on. And that’s exactly what a guy hates. There’s a fine line between reminding and nagging. Reminding has to be kind, sweet, and only done twice at the most. Nagging, on the other hand, is a repetitive, irritating command or request that is most of the time, delivered out of angst or stress.

5.      We both eluded confrontations.

I can not overstress the power of open communication. Since we’re both stung, tendency is to fight. But given our characters, nasty and hurtful words are sometimes unavoidable. Which is wrong. We both needed to argue to confront what needs were ignored, or taken for granted, but we both didn’t need to hurt each other by pointing out flaws. Nobody’s perfect, so if we could have confronted with diplomacy and respect, it could’ve been a lot better for us. And he wouldn’t be having those grudges now, he would still think of the many reasons why he would WANT to come back to me.

6.      I was too clingy and needy.

I didn’t know I was like this if a friend didn’t point this out. It was a hurtful realization; the more that I demanded more time with him, the more he felt suffocated and the more I lost my old spice. I wasn’t the same fun girl he used to adore and enjoy being with; and time spent with me became more of an obligation for him rather than a mere want. Which was a really, REALLY bad thing. I wasn’t keeping him that way, I was pushing him away. If I was the same girl who had a life and enjoyed life even without him, he would still enjoy the life being with me – all because I was fun to be with. And this is another reason that could’ve eliminated the reasons why he can’t go back.

I know that these realizations are just too hurtful, most especially if the breakup’s still fresh and you’re still on your way to recovery. But without an open mind and this time apart, I’m only bound to make things worse -for me, for him, and for our kids.

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