How To Get Him Back

Has your boyfriend recently said ‘maybe we weren’t meant to be’? You thought he was the man you were destined to spend your entire life with, but he left you alone mid way. Nothing around seems as beautiful as it did earlier and the only thought that rules your mind right now is how to get him back.

You don’t want to remain in this situation for long. The first thing you need to do right now is analyze what went wrong. Was it completely your fault that you got dumped or is he really not interested in you anymore? There is no point thinking about how to get him back if he’s not interested. He will never be faithful and will not keep you happy.

In a relationship, there are few signals that indicate that your relationship is going to end soon. I experienced these and even though I felt insecure, I couldn’t do much about it:

• My boyfriend hardly called. I would call and the conversations were short and pretty meaningless.
• The way he looked at me wasn’t the same
• There weren’t any jokes and no laughter. Conversations were serious and majorly included questions like ‘how are you’, ‘what are you doing’, ‘did you eat’ etc.
• Sex was less. We were together but still a feeling of loneliness was also there
• There was no excitement. The spark was just not there anymore

I got alert when I could see I was going to lose him soon but couldn’t think of what to do. And then finally the day arrived, when he called and said that he wanted everything to end between us. I couldn’t completely understand why it happened. What went wrong? I tried to explain that things would get better in our relationship but he didn’t seem to be listening. Soon the time I had come when he stopped answering my calls or replying to my messages. This is when I realized that I had lost him and now I need to do something, which may even require changing myself completely but I had to get him back somehow.

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You need to think from his perspective. Don’t do things that you like because he is a different person. Remember what he liked you to do, what were the things you did in the beginning that attracted him towards you. Changing yourself would also mean changing some of the fundamental beliefs you have. It is important to understand what to stop and start doing to get your ex love back.

An important thing to remember here is that men DON’T like fake women. Changing yourself does not mean that you just start wearing shorter clothes or start drinking and stand in front of him. This might only make you look whacky and crazy. He will just laugh at you and walk away. You need to be yourself at this time. Change the way you think and try and match up to his level. Do things that he expected you to do but you never really gave them importance thinking it’s just fine the way it is.

You may be feeling lonely and totally heartbroken but don’t keep your head down and slump your shoulders. It will indicate how you feel inside. Self confidence should be maintained. Body language is the first signal you send to people and the way you present yourself will make all the change. Dress up nicely, accessorize yourself, take care of your hygiene, thing about the good things and make yourself feel special and stand up straight and have a good appearance.

My boyfriend and I had defined responsibilities in the relationship. I was responsible for keeping the house clean, grocery shopping and mostly the one who talked for long hours. He would patiently listen, pay off all the bills on time and was the bread earner. Towards the end, duties and responsibilities were not being taken care of. He forgot to pay bills, wasn’t really interested in what I was saying and I felt sad. He seemed bored of me. I should have added some excitement and adventure in the relationship then. He enjoyed golf and when I planned a weekend where we would go and play golf together, he loved it. Plan out dinners and spend time together. Try to talk out the things. Reverse roles, be the listener and let him do the talking. Going to the same places where you went earlier would remind him of good times you had together and he might think of giving the relationship a second chance.

Remember not to do the same mistakes that you did earlier. Once your relationship is on the verge of getting over, do not do something that always pissed him off. Even if you don’t like it, do things he likes. Pick out words from his conversation and talk to him using those words. This will make him feel that you have the same level of thinking as he does.

Don’t act jealous. When trying to get him back, don’t let him know that you really miss him and you are jealous seeing him with other guys. Act normal as if you’ve moved on. Don’t keep calling him or sending messages. Call once in a while and tell him lets catch up for dinner. Try to talk it out once but if he is not interested, don’t push it too hard. Being too romantic and smothering him with your outpourings of affection may have been the initial reason for your break up.

Pleading him and saying things like ‘I’ll do anything for you’, ‘all I want in my life is you’ is not the right thing to do. Becoming his slave will make you look weak, desperate and thoroughly unattractive. He would know that he can get back to you anytime and you wouldn’t say no. Accepting your love after he has dated some other girl might not give you happiness. If he has ditched you once, he might leave you alone and do it again.

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What to say when he call again

You still want him back, do you? Now you’ve done your homework – you’ve moved on (after spending a fortune to these self-help books! I damn well should!), or a good 70-80% tells you that you’ve moved on, you already have a life, yes you still want him back but you’re no longer that desperate…that you’re no longer thinking of him that much…

…Then he suddenly calls.

What will you say? Rather, what should you say?

1.      Be positive. How have you been? Good start for a casual talk.

2.      Stop thinking that he called you because he now wants you back. Never entertain false assumptions at this point. It’s better to assume that he needs his stuff back, or he just wants to ask a few random questions, or maybe he’s just bored – rather than assume that he wants you back only that he doesn’t.

3.      Stop initiating talks like, “After you left, I’ve been devastated…I dated around but all I think about is you…” It’s not proper for you to start that talk even if deep down it wants to burst out of you. Stop showing him how devastated you were, it’s not going to lead you anywhere good. Trust me. Let him start that, not you. If you really want him back, let him keep guessing.

4.      Don’t start talking about all the bad things that happened when you broke up. If he starts it, then fine go talk about it, but make sure you avoid all the bitterness and anger. It’s human nature to feel those emotions, but you don’t have to show him. A sign of a mature, intelligent, and emotionally stable adult is to acknowledge that yes, you’re still hurt, you’re still healing, but you have to let your logic rule your life now.

5.      Once he starts talking about his new girl, or how happy he’s been without you, YOU DON’T HAVE TO SHOW HIM YOU’RE STUNG. Just keep it inside you first. Cry on it later when he hangs up. But now that you’re still talking to him, you have these following options:

a.       “Let’s not talk about it yet. I’m still healing, I hope you understand.”

b.      “Really? Good for you.” Then roll your eyes and talk about something else.

6.      Then out of nowhere say, “Hey I gotta go.” Even if you want the whole day to talk to him, your easy exit will be your best tactic to let him chase you. Remember, you have to play games sometimes to get what you want.

Always remember that the rule here is to keep him guessing. Once a man does, he’ll keep on wondering about you and he won’t stop thinking what the heck happened – when before you were so eager and desperate to want him back. This is a good start to make him think about you more often.

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Do You Really Want Him Back?

Did you lose your love of your life? Stop being pathetic. Stop showing your ex that you’re so desperate to have them back (even if you really are). It’s important that you have the right reasons to get him back – and not just because of a shattered ego. Because sometimes, desperation is unhealthy to show in excess. It’s ok to show how bad you really want them back but you have to maintain it in a sane perspective – not like you’re ready to kill your ex’s new date, or you’re ready to do something really drastic (like suicide or burning his apartment). It’s also unhealthy if you keep forcing yourself into someone who simply lost all the love for you – only to find out that, deep down, you yourself aren’t sure if you really want him back. Your second chance with him if in case you get back together is doomed to fail – if you wanted him back and if you got him back for the wrong reasons.

Doing a self-check is a good way to start. You have to have the right reasons for wanting him back and not just to suffice any ill feelings now. Before you decide and to strategize how to get your ex back, it’s important for you to ask yourself these questions:

1. Do I really want him back? What if I’m just lonely and scared to be alone?

You will instinctively say YES because you’re sad now. You’re desperate. You can’t stand the loneliness. But firstly, why did you break up in the first place? Was it because of trust issues on your part – or his? Did he cheat? Or did you cheat? Was there any abuse issues? Do I want him back because of untainted and unconditional love, or I just want revenge? Find out the real issue why it ended. If it was a shallow reason that was clearly unheard of, if it lacked proper and mature justification, then maybe it’s pointless to get him back. If the reason was indeed valid – and not just some lame excuse taken out of thin air, you have to rethink it over. For all you know, you might have given him the reasons to leave! All these questions are not only important in finding out if you really want him back or not, these will also prove to be VERY important once you both decide to mend the broken relationship.

2. Have I forgiven him (myself included)?

After a serious soul and self-search of all the reasons why he left and why it had to end, it’s also very important to forgive him – and yourself included. If he cheated on you, yes it’s very painful, betrayal is always a tough thing to deal with, but if you’re getting him back without forgiving and forgetting, you as a couple will not move forward and your second chance together will be doomed to fail. Without forgiveness and forgetting, you’re just starting off with the wrong foot.

3. Would I be a better partner in case I successfully get him back?

Just in case that you succeed, are you sure that the both of you will be better partners to each other later on? If it’s going to turn out for the worse, with more cheating, more distrust, a vengeful thinking, or you just want to get back, forget it. It’s not going to do you any good. A relationship has to be free from these negative thoughts and feelings. Remember, it always has to be something good. You don’t really need any negative thoughts or motives right now.

4. Am I ready to make it work this time?

After all these questions and before making a resolve, be sure you’re ready to make it work. Be sure that breakups are only as bad as avoiding the real problem instead of you both squarely facing it and solving the problem. And you will both do everything to make it work. That relationships only work out between 2 grownup adults ready to face challenges together, and ready to commit, rather than breaking up in haste and regretting it all the more.

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