Do You Really Want Him Back?

Did you lose your love of your life? Stop being pathetic. Stop showing your ex that you’re so desperate to have them back (even if you really are). It’s important that you have the right reasons to get him back – and not just because of a shattered ego. Because sometimes, desperation is unhealthy to show in excess. It’s ok to show how bad you really want them back but you have to maintain it in a sane perspective – not like you’re ready to kill your ex’s new date, or you’re ready to do something really drastic (like suicide or burning his apartment). It’s also unhealthy if you keep forcing yourself into someone who simply lost all the love for you – only to find out that, deep down, you yourself aren’t sure if you really want him back. Your second chance with him if in case you get back together is doomed to fail – if you wanted him back and if you got him back for the wrong reasons.

Doing a self-check is a good way to start. You have to have the right reasons for wanting him back and not just to suffice any ill feelings now. Before you decide and to strategize how to get your ex back, it’s important for you to ask yourself these questions:

1. Do I really want him back? What if I’m just lonely and scared to be alone?

You will instinctively say YES because you’re sad now. You’re desperate. You can’t stand the loneliness. But firstly, why did you break up in the first place? Was it because of trust issues on your part – or his? Did he cheat? Or did you cheat? Was there any abuse issues? Do I want him back because of untainted and unconditional love, or I just want revenge? Find out the real issue why it ended. If it was a shallow reason that was clearly unheard of, if it lacked proper and mature justification, then maybe it’s pointless to get him back. If the reason was indeed valid – and not just some lame excuse taken out of thin air, you have to rethink it over. For all you know, you might have given him the reasons to leave! All these questions are not only important in finding out if you really want him back or not, these will also prove to be VERY important once you both decide to mend the broken relationship.

2. Have I forgiven him (myself included)?

After a serious soul and self-search of all the reasons why he left and why it had to end, it’s also very important to forgive him – and yourself included. If he cheated on you, yes it’s very painful, betrayal is always a tough thing to deal with, but if you’re getting him back without forgiving and forgetting, you as a couple will not move forward and your second chance together will be doomed to fail. Without forgiveness and forgetting, you’re just starting off with the wrong foot.

3. Would I be a better partner in case I successfully get him back?

Just in case that you succeed, are you sure that the both of you will be better partners to each other later on? If it’s going to turn out for the worse, with more cheating, more distrust, a vengeful thinking, or you just want to get back, forget it. It’s not going to do you any good. A relationship has to be free from these negative thoughts and feelings. Remember, it always has to be something good. You don’t really need any negative thoughts or motives right now.

4. Am I ready to make it work this time?

After all these questions and before making a resolve, be sure you’re ready to make it work. Be sure that breakups are only as bad as avoiding the real problem instead of you both squarely facing it and solving the problem. And you will both do everything to make it work. That relationships only work out between 2 grownup adults ready to face challenges together, and ready to commit, rather than breaking up in haste and regretting it all the more.

Here is a movie which covers everything about  typical  break up.

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